“Out of our beliefs are born deeds: out of our deeds we form habits; out of our habits grows our character; and on our character we build our destiny.”
(Henry Hancock)
I’ve been preparing for the first teleclass in the Confidence for Job Seekers program that’s happening later today. (See the PS below for more about this.) The topic is Dealing with Interview Nerves and I’ve come across some interesting comments and beliefs about interview nerves. These things can easily get in peoples way of doing their best.
This is not something confined to the subject of being nervous at interviews. I often find that what is keeping someone stuck in a situation or from taking action is a unrecognised belief.
“Celebrate the happiness that friends are always giving, make every day a holiday and celebrate just living!”
(Amanda Bradley)
March 26th is “make up your own holiday day.” I’ve often read that a particular day is a day to celebrate x, y or z and wondered how that happened.
Don’t get me wrong, I joyfully take part in the fun of some – In the UK we have just celebrated mothers day and we’re only 179 days from International talk like a pirate day (September 19th in case you are wondering.) I just get curious about how, for example, 24th March is the American National Chocolate Covered Raisins Day (Not to be confused with the Chocolate Covered Anything Day on December 16th!)
A holiday (or holy-day) is a time to celebrate, commemorate or honour a particular event, person or thing. It is often a time designed to raise awareness/remember and generally be grateful.
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“Life itself is the most wonderful fairytale of all.”
Hans Christian Andersen
I love to read autobiographies to find out how people do what they do. It doesn’t have to be a celebrity to spark my interest. As TV host Phillip Schofield, who has spent the vast proportion of his (to date) 26 year career interviewing people says, “the most inspiring are nearly always the people who aren’t famous and who have an amazing story.”
It’s not at all uncommon to read bits where the individual shares the fact that they had moments of self doubt. Those times when they question if they are good enough or perhaps start “over thinking” a situation. The difference is that these are people that don’t let that stop them from “putting themselves out there”.
How someone goes about doing that will depend upon the individual:
Some carry on and ”feel the fear and do it anyway,” they take a deep breath and take the next step as necessary.
Others may use one of the many ways to keep the situation in perspective – that may be by talking or working with someone else.
Perhaps deliberately stepping out of the situation and finding “evidence” for the opposing thought that is keeping them stuck, taking action to rectify the situation, or perhaps just giving that thought no more weight then any other thought that goes through your head.
Another option is to take lots of seemingly small and manageable steps towards what they want.
They find the way that works for them, the thing that will move their story forward.
This week I invite you to play with some questions to find ways to take the next step in your story. Take as long as you want to answer these questions and by all means use a pen and paper to write your answers.
1. Imagine that you are writing your own autobiography – what do you want the next chapter to be about?
2. If you really knew nobody (including you) would judge you on what you write then what goes in your next chapter?
3. How does this chapter start? What is the very first thing that you do?
4. If you had to make that first step easier and more fun how would you do it?
