Unfolding stories

22 06 2010

“Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”
(Earl Nightingale)

For the last few weeks I have been watching an unfolding story of action and perseverance. At times it appeared that it was destined to end in failure but so far despite all appearances to the country it’s looking like a happy ending is on the cards.

I’m not referring to any TV show but a tale that has been taking place outside one of the windows by my desk. 2 wood pigeons have set up their home and have been raising a family.

Their initial attempts of “constructing” their nest looked like a single breeze would bring it down to the ground. Certainly in comparison to the blackbirds in a different part of the garden the term construction would be a generous description of their attempts to balance twigs on a branch.

Yet no one appears to have mentioned to them that they need to compare themselves to other birds. So they persevered with their building until they had a nest balanced precariously on the branch and took up residency. As an onlooker I was concerned as I had seen their attempts at bathing in the bottom of the garden which nearly always led to them knocking over nearby plant pots. Such apparent clumsiness and a balanced nest did not seem like the ideal match to me.

However, not being fluent in pigeon they were unaware of how I expected this story to unfold so they carried on creating a family home apparently unphased by it all.

So after a spell of sitting on her eggs we got a small family, who in recent weeks have been perfecting the art of flying. Sure the parents may not give the most accurate directions – judging by the rebound one of the youngsters had with a window. (Or maybe it’s just inherited it’s parents clumsiness). However, no-one had mentioned to it that if you failed then obviously that’s what it would mean every time because it was soon trying again altering it’s course so that there was no more bouncing of windows.

As I type one of them is currently sat in the tree apparently watching me through the window perhaps wondering what that strange creature is up to this time so that it can tell the rest of its family later the newest exploits!

So often we can get in our own ways by comparing ourselves either to someone else or an imagined perfection. On other occasions we may let someone-else’s concerns drown out our own inner knowledge. Not to mention how easy it can be to use a perceived failure as a reason not to attempt that again.

If you have a situation or project where you have found yourself stuck then this week I invite you to play with the following questions and see which will get you moving again.

1. If it didn’t matter how you completed this, as long as you got there, what would be your next step?
2. If you were invisible, so nobody could see how you completed this situation/project, what would be your very next step?
3. If it didn’t matter if you stumbled or failed, what would be your next step?

These questions are designed to give you new possibilities of action – you don’t have to “do” anything with any of your answers. They are here to give you a different way of approaching what you are stuck with. However, you may find that there is a gem of an idea of what to do next that you haven’t realised before. If there is any answer you want to do and like the consequences of, then by all means take action and get moving again.

Have a week full of taking flight with your next step




Freedom from Fear of
Speaking Week

22 06 2009

Did you know that next week is Freedom from Fear of Speaking Week?

It seems an appropriate time to mention Jonathan Altfeld’s public speaking and presentation skills course.

With London dates in July and US and Australian courses in October, this is a course I highly recommend if you want to increase your confidence and be more compelling when speaking in front of people.

I make it a principal of only recommending products and events that I have already tried and consider a quality product that gets results. If you are looking for a course to develop your public or group speaking then I highly recommend Speaking Ingeniously with the trainer Jonathan Altfeld.

I attended such a course a few years ago (under the previous title of holographic communication). There was a broad range of experience within the group attending. From individuals who literally shook at the idea of speaking in front of the group, to trainers and speakers who would professionally daily speak to groups.

Using just the right mix for everyone in the group Jonathan quickly dealt with any nerves that any of the group used to have and provided a course that blended techniques and exercises with individual coaching.

Jonathan Altfeld is a highly skilled communicator and trainer whom it is an absolute pleasure to watch at work. He cultivates a learning environment which nurtures and develops the skills of every ability within the group. The journey which Jonathan easily guided us through creates epic transformations, no matter what experience the individual started day 1 with.

Using a combination exercises and group work, lessons and skills easily emerge which can be utilised not only in public speaking but in the far wider concept of everyday life.

The amount of time Jonathan spent with the group went far and beyond the call of duty, it wasn’t at all unusual for Jonathan to join the group for meals or in the bar and carry on covering subjects more informally.

Plus as a special bonus to Your Changing Direction readers Jonathan is offering a free copy of his Truth Detection mp3′s with your booking. To make sure you get your copy make sure that you quote my name (Jen Waller) and ask about the bonus – If you let me know as well I’ll double check that you get your bonus :)

Click HERE for full details about the course including video clips showing the change in previous participants.


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