Hypno Drunk

2 01 2010

Today’s New Year resource recommendation is Hypno Drunk.

Is your New Years Resolution to stop or lower the amount of alchol you drink?

Have you ever wondered what it will be like to get drunk without touching a drop?

Can you imagine having a great night out without the hangover and other side effects of drinking?

Hypno Drunk is a specially designed MP3 that will take you through using your mind to alter your state.

Hypno Drunk is a powerful hypnotic adventure designed to take you through the natural stages of getting drunk by simply using your own mind.

Click here to get your copy for less than it costs to buy a pint in most parts of the UK!

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Congruence by Jamie Dixon

1 12 2008
Jamie Dixon is, in my opinion, one of the rising stars of his generation. Apart from being highly trained and skillful at working with clients, he regularly takes what works in one area and applies and plays with it in other areas of life.
 
My aim with these messages is to provide you with useful, thought provoking and practical tips and techniques. For the first time in over 2 years of sending out such messages I have a guest writer to share his quality thoughts with you.
 
This week I invite you to play with Jamie’s words. I also encourage you to follow his example and apply the techniques in other areas other than just the ones he mentions, you can use it any time you want to communicate more dynamically – maybe when telling stories to your children, giving a speech at a wedding or family celebration or during a business presentation. However this may apply to the specifics of your life I hope you enjoy playing. I’ll be back next week with some of my own words :)
 
Love
 
Jen
 
Congruence  by Jamie Dixon

I was listening to a friend tell me a story the other day about one of his favourite hobbies, motorbike riding. He was telling me about a trip out he’d had riding through the winding roads of a mountain with pine trees on both sides and the wind blowing at his back. As he rode and increased the speed he described to me how he felt when he was millimetres from the ground as he turned round hair pin corners feeling the tip of his knee brushing against the road and the sun blinding him right before his bike corrected it’s balance and he shot forwards down the long straight road of total freedom.

As he was telling me these things I started to notice how his tone of voice was shifting, how his skin colour was changing and the muscles in his cheeks were rising and falling as he described the most intense parts of his experience. His eyes became wide and bright, his smile grew and each part of his being was associated into the experience he was describing.

When I’ve heard people talking about congruence when working with people I’ve most often found that it was being talked about from the clients’ perspective. That is, watching the client and noticing when they’re congruent and when they’re not. Noticing when they say yes and shake their head no, sensing when they claim excitement and demonstrate a mediocre emotion and generally being aware how a person says what they say and whether that matches with what they talk about linguistically.

Another side of congruence, and one I find to be an important and key part of working with people in general, is that of being congruent as a coach in what we say and what we demonstrate and also being congruent with our own values.

What I mean by this is that when we work with people and we tell them stories or ask them questions to elicit certain states, what I’ve found to be one of the most important aspects of this is to demonstrate the state in question as we talk about it. Now, even though it is possibly to elicit a state in someone simply by describing it,
from experience, it’s much easier for both the listener and the speaker if the speaker is demonstrating what he/she is talking about.

This also makes it easier for the client to unconsciously understand what to do even when we’re not talking about the states themselves.  Sometimes simply by going into the right state and being congruent with what we want our client to feel, they simply begin to go into that space.

So how can we practice being congruent with what we want our client to experience?

Here are 5 steps for practicing different states so that you can easily go into them when you want too.

For this example we can use curiosity.

1.       Remember a time when you were curious about something before and see what you saw at the time, hear what you heard, smell and taste anything that you might have at the time and begin to remember what it feels like to become curious now.

2.       As you start to notice what it feels like to become curious, start to intensify the feelings and then remember a second time when you felt curious and see what you saw, hear what you heard and begin to double and triple the feelings of curiosity.

3.       Notice how this sense of curiosity feels and begin to describe one of the times you’ve felt curious. This might be done by telling a story about this time you were curious.

4.       Remember this feeling and then find another person to tell this story too.

5.       Begin telling this story of curiosity and notice how the feelings come back and how the person you’re telling the story too begins to also become more curious.

The more you go into the state that you want to elicit in your client, the easier and quicker they’ll go into that state.

It’s interesting how even unconsciously we can notice whether someone is really putting forward what they’re talking about compared to when they’re doing things by rote. This can make all the different with the people we’re working with and often makes or breaks a session.

For many of you this will already be something you do and the more you practice and the more you learn what it feels like for you to go into the states you want to elicit in your clients, the easier and more diverse it will become. You might even begin to realise that each of these states is in fact not just one type of feeling but also that it has a spectrum of feelings that can be used for similar responses, each with its own different levels of intensity.

Please post comments on how this works for you and how you’ll use this in the future.

Most importantly remember to have fun with this. It’s about playing, experimenting and experiencing more of the things we like.

Love, Jamie

(c) Jamie Dixon 2008

PS If you want to read more of Jamie’s work visit http://www.warmthonthesoul.com, where you can register so that you are one of the first to find out about new articles, reviews and discoveries.

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