Let it go day

23 06 2009

“Let it go, let it go, let it go
‘Cos it’s out of my control
Let it go, let it go
Don’t have to have it all
Grips so tight it shatters the only thing that matters
I only got one life
Heaven knows what I’m stressing for
Just let it go”

(Lyrics from Will Young’s “Let it Go”, written by Eg White, Jeremy Gregory and Karen Poole)

I’m told that today (June 23rd) is “Let it go day”. So it seems an appropriate time to write something about letting things go :)

I thought I’d share just a couple of the ways that I know to make letting go easier.

Sometimes, it’s as simple as accepting that the meaning that you had given an event is not necessarily true.

Maybe it’s a generalisation that because something happened once it will always happen. What if, there was no bigger meaning then it happened once?

An example of this is:

“because I ‘messed up’ speaking in public before when I forgot a line in a school play, it means I’ll always mess up public speaking.”

There are things you can learn to make speaking in public easy. (See my PS for a recommendation.) What if, there is no other meaning to that past event apart from you once forgot a line?

Sometimes it’s about letting go of mind reading what someone may or may not have thought.

For example, maybe you think a work colleague doesn’t like you based solely upon the fact that they didn’t come and talk to you at a busy social gathering.

While they may not like you, it’s also equally possible that they didn’t speak to you because they didn’t see you, they were stuck in a conversation they couldn’t get out of maybe they thought that you not talking to them meant that you didn’t like them …

What if, you let go of guessing and making up a reason, and let it just be that you didn’t talk to each other at the event?

If you are playing with this particular technique and you notice that you are getting caught up in a story behind an event etc, firstly congratulate yourself for noticing.

Then ask yourself the following: what if you allowed yourself to let go of that story?

You may find that when you let go of the reason behind you are inspired to take some action.

Sometimes it’s about letting go of a feeling.

For example maybe you want to want to let go of the feeling of disapproving of your body.

The following is loosely based upon the work of the abundance technique:

1. Notice where in your body you are feeling that feeling – e.g. in your stomach, chest maybe even your throat.

2. Imagine that you can open a door above that feeling

3. Open that door and let that feeling out

4. Notice the colour of that feeling as it all leaves your body

As today is let it go day, I invite you to let go of anything that is holding you back. It’s just for the day – if you want you can always pick it up whatever you let go off again at the end of the 24 hours!

Use either of the ways I mention above or one of your own. If you are then inspired to take action by all means feel free to do that.

Have a lovely freeing week



PS If you want to learn more about developing your public speaking skills (including banishing any fear) then I highly recommend Jonathan Altfeld’s course coming up in London in a few weeks (With dates being scheduled periodically around the globe.)

Click here to read more about what I have to say about the course and for a special offer for my readers.


Fun and Adaptation

28 04 2009

Did you read about Raiders of the Lost Ark: The Adaptation? The film receives its UK cinema premiere at a Charity screening this evening (Tuesday) in London’s Leicester Square.

Eric Zala and Chris Strompolos, spent 7 years of their childhood creating their film, starting filming at the age of 10 and 11 during their school holidays. Faithfully recreating scene by scene the Stephen Spielberg’s original movie. The boys enlisted friends during the summer months to lovingly create each shot.

Spielberg himself has described their adaptation as a “loving and detailed tribute to his film”. Where the only shot that defeated them was blowing up a plane, every other one made it into the film.

Over 25 years since their filming, the consequences has resulted in a dream-come-true-meeting with Stephen Spielberg and their film becoming a cult classic. Yet as Chris Stompolos who plays the hero Indy says, at the time it just “seemed like a really fun idea.”

This week I invite you to add a bit more fun into what you are doing (OK, if you are really daring, a lot of fun)

Apart from being a far more pleasant experience, adding fun into what you are doing can really help with motivation.

Especially if its what seems like a mundane task, what would make it more fun?

For example, do you have a pile of ironing or paperwork you’ve been putting off while it takes on its own life form in the corner? If so what would make it more fun? Maybe, doing that while watching you’re favourite movie on DVD?

Possibly its by setting yourself only a set amount of time on the task before moving onto something else – or is it a reward for when its completed?

Perhaps, like the 2 boys did all those years ago, it’s about involving others?

I’d love to hear about how you play with this, who knows where it may lead …

Have a fun week



PS I’m looking forward to having a fun week in London in May assisting on Michael Neill’s Coaching Mastery and The Secret to Effortless Success events.

Visit www.coachingmastery.co.uk and www.effortless-success.co.uk full details. If you are coming to both or either event do come up and say hello.


Role Models and Inspiration

23 04 2009

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”
(Mark Twain)

Fans of the TV series The West Wing may recall the phrase “What would Leo do?”. Leo was a well respected and experienced character and the question was used when another character was stuck and wondering what course of action should be taken.

The term role model is often used for a “person who serves as an example, whose behaviour is emulated by others.” This can be someone known personal or somebody who’s story is known but has not been meet in person. This means if you were to ask you could get told about a family member, a friend, work colleague, someone well known in a particular field, a celebrity – it may even be a fictitious character.

I’d like to suggest that rather than a role model making you feel inspired or motivated they act as a catalyst to making it easy for you to feel that way.

While a judgemental comparison of yourself with others can be a great way to induce self doubt, role models can be a fantastic way to use the actions of others to get in touch with or spark your inspiration and motivation. While there are other ways to do that this week I invite you to play with the idea of role models.

You may find this easier to do with your eyes closed.

1. Who are your role models?

2. If there is one, pick situation you are stuck with or one that you would like more inspiration and motivation.

3 Imagine that your role model(s) have observed you in this situation. Have a chat with your role model(s) and get their first impression. (Not sure how to start the chat? Hello and there name is always a good place to start ;) )

4 What advice does your role model have to give you?

5. What would they do in this situation?

6. Is there anything else that your role model has to share with you?

7. When you’ve both finished your conversation, thank your role model for their time and advice and come back to the room that you are in.

Have a lovely inspired and motivated week




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