Your Changing Direction

Happy New Year!

Today’s New Year Resource recommendation is The Slim Girl’s Box of Secrets.

The Slim Girl’s Box of Secrets is a unique approach to balancing weight loss with health, happiness and style.

The Slim Girl’s Box of Secrets represents the unveiling of the secrets that celebrity life coach Ali Campbell has perfected working with clients from rock stars to royalty to help them achieve their goals.

The programme is NOT about dieting and caters specifically to people who don’t like exercise and really don’t want to spend hours in a gym.

The style used throughout is funny, engaging, irreverent and above all available to everybody who wants to be slim, healthy and stylish – there are no judgements and nobody need feel alone or that this programme is “not for me”.

Ali is a Master of Neuro Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis, a Personal Trainer and highly effective motivator  rolled into one.

The Box contains a 200+ page book, 2 DVDs, 2CDs and a specially designed style guide. The design of the package is aspirational and engaging. The package is supported by a world class and highly compelling community based, social
networking website where members may interact with others on the same journey and gain additional interactive content from a faculty of specialists.

Ali Campbell Says:
“As most people will tell you, diets alone don’t work. While there is nothing fundamentally wrong with many diets, what ‘is’ wrong is the whole concept of being ‘on’ a diet and then returning to your old ways afterwards. The Slim Girl’s Box Of Secrets is totally different, because it’s not about dieting, in fact it does not contain anything that could be described as a diet. Instead it allows anybody to aspire to a permanently slim figure combined with a fit, healthy and  active lifestyle by revealing to them the real secrets of naturally slim and stylish women.

First, the box of secrets contains a book, 55,000 words of encouragement written in my own conversational style containing the genuine techniques, and strategies I have used over the years and presented in 5 sections Slim,  Fit, Healthy, Active and Stylish.

The book contains an undercurrent of hypnotic language which on its own would often be enough to help someone lose weight but, I have backed it up with so much more.

There are DVDs, audio CDs and a style tool kit. One of the DVDs shows me working with a real client to demonstrate many of the secrets of eliminating cravings, switching off those ‘must have’ foods like chocolate and dealing easily with stress.

Another DVD features a complete exercise program designed specifically for people who don’t like exercise. The program does not involve going to the gym but can be performed at home without special equipment and is presented in a voyeuristic style by a top personal trainer as she works with the same client. Then those same exercises are presented in an easy routine for the viewer to follow along at home.

One of the audio CDs contains the slim girl’s key secret, designed to be used daily for weight loss without dieting. This is exactly as I would do for a private client.

On the next CD I personally guide the listener through each of the life changing techniques in the book to make them easier to follow and even more effective.”

The last thing in the box itself is the style tool kit, enabling the user to perform their own colour analysis, match their face shape to their ideal hair style and get a better understanding of their body shape and how to dress it to make the most of their natural assets.

Then we have the part that makes all the difference…
We have developed a unique community based, social networking website where friendships can be formed and notes of encouragement passed and pinned to each others virtual fridge. In their profile page they can plot their progress and log it in their personal journal.

While in the main part of the site, they will find a growing library of slim, fit, healthy, active and style articles, and can take part in the discussion forums and view live, reactive web casts from myself and many other experts as we address current discussion topics in our faculty section, the site even has an ‘unburden board’ where members can get their secrets off their chest and share them with the world while remaining totally anonymous.

We would love to enhance the site with some celebrity content in the form of quotes, or tips or even a few juicy anonymous secrets to add to our community! We’d like you to help us make the experience even more fun and engaging to ensure that many more women benefit from this new and innovative yet tried and proven approach…
The Slim Girl’s Box of Secrets really is a unique approach to balancing weight loss with health, happiness and style since it does not involve dieting and is tailored for the majority of us who don’t really enjoy exercise (although of course it works for exerciseaholics too!)”.

Click Here to find out more and to get your copy

“I had one appointment with Ali, and two months later I have lost 20lbs… I even lost weight over Christmas. There is no effort involved, I just think like a thin person… it will change your weight  and your life” – Sheena

“Since having the session with Ali for weight loss, I have dropped down two dress sizes. I am now a size 8 thank you so much you have changed my life” – Franchesca

Visit this link to find out more so you can stop worrying about your weight and appearance.

Today’s resource for the New Year is Jinny Ditzler’s book Your Best Year Yet.

Your Best Year Yet is a book that is split into 3 parts, an introduction to the principals behind “Your Best Year Yet” and sharing experiences of those who have already played, part two comprises of 10 chapters, with each chapter devoted to a particular question and part 3 is the space in the book for you to answer your questions and complete your very own best year yet “workshop”. How you use this book is is up to you, if you wanted you could jump straight to part 3 referring back only to part 2 for any clarity you need on any of the questions. You may want to read parts one and two in preparation for using the program yourself.

The workshop section comprises of 10 questions that look back over the last year, guides you through identifying what you want and then walks you through setting your own guidelines and focus. In my opinion, it’s beauty is in its simplicity. Its layout means that no matter if you are familiar with goal setting creating your own personal plan for the year ahead is very easy.

You can take as long as you like to complete this book but I would estimate that the final section would need 2-3 hours to answer fully.

[Amazon.co.uk] Your Best Year Yet: Make the Next 12 Months Your Best Ever!

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“Our aspirations are our possibilities.”

(Samuel Johnson)

Have you noticed that sometimes the answer that you get will depend upon the question that you’ve asked?

I don’t know if you actually make any New Years Resolutions or set any goals for the year ahead but if you did how would you do it? What questions would you ask yourself?

If you are not aware of asking yourself any questions then you may like to look at previous new years resolutions/ goals and see what question they are answering.

Your answer will no doubt have depended upon the question that you asked.

This week I will talk about some of the common questions that people use when making New Years resolutions, setting goals and generally deciding what they want to create in their lives. (Oh OK a couple may not be so common but can be useful ) I invite you to use these questions to come up with some possibilities. You can then use your answers to decide if that is something that you would actually like to turn into a reality.

Why does it matter what questions are asked?

While some things may happen because of external things that are completely outside of your control, others events happen, at least partly, because of actions that you choose to take.

Earlier this year I was assisting on a couple of Michael Neill’s trainings where he stated that for most people the future they imagine is approximately plus or minus 10% of their past. That is, the future they imagine falls somewhere between 10% better or 10% worst than how they see their past.

But the future hasn’t actually happened yet so the future holds infinite possibilities that fall outside that 10%. (Unless you are a time traveller and you’re reading this on a trip into the past!) Sometimes, the questions that you use help you to see more of those possibilities so you can choose if you want to take action to make them real.

I invite you to play with the following questions and just notice the answers that come up for you.

You’ll probably find it easier if you don’t jump ahead to figuring out what the next step is to making your answers into a reality – I know it’s tempting but you may miss including some really cool things by doing it that way. It’ll be like only watching the first song of your favourite bands music concert and then leaving because you thought you had heard all they had to offer.

Besides, I’ve put together a list of resources that may help you with the next steps but I’ll tell you more about that after you’ve played with more possibilities.

(You may want to have a pen and paper handy to answer them)

What New Years Resolutions should you set?

What New Years Resolution do you want to set?

What New Years resolution would you love to set?

What New Year resolutions will you set?

What goals do you want to achieve in your future?

What goals would be fun to have in your future?

What goals are the next logical things to do in your future?

What would you love to create in 2010?

What would put a huge grin on your face in 2010?

What may seem impossible and/or impractical but you’d still love to have it in 2010?

If you know that you would be loved unconditionally regardless, what would you choose to do?

If you knew money was no object what would you choose?

If you know that it didn’t matter if you didn’t get it, what would you love to work towards?

Once you have answered these questions, and any other that spring to your mind, read through your answers. You may notice that you have similar or very different answers to how you normally do such things.

It’s now up to you, which (if any) you want to pick to use in your future.

Bonus tip

Sometimes your initial answer to a question is one that is influenced by how you think what you actually want can be done i.e. winning the lottery is one way of creating more money in your life.

To open up more possible answers, you may want to ask, “What would that give me” about your initial answer. Keep asking yourself for each level of answer that you come up with (even if it feels like you are making it up) until you can’t answer anymore.

For example, what would winning the lottery give me? More money

What would more money give me? I’d feel like I had more freedom to do more fun things easier.

For any that you would like to include in your future, now is the time to consider what the next step is to travel towards it.  For further resources that may be relevant for you click here. Then you can choose if that is something you want to do.

Have a week full of more infinite possibilities

Love

Jen 

PS For more resources compiled to make your New Year resolutions, your 2010 goals and generally to create the life you’d love easier click here.

The first of the New Year resources recommendations for you is Michael Neill’s Creating the Impossible.

Sometimes you may allow yourself to admit that thing that you’d love to have/do/achieve but quickly follow that thought up with but “that’s impossible.”

In July last year over 550 people took part in “Creating the Impossible”, an online program designed to support you to transform your world in 30 days.

January see’s the program running again so if you have something that

1) You believe you have less than a 50% chance of success during January

AND

2) You are passionate about so that regardless how it turns out you’ll be glad of the time and energy that you invested

Click here to find out how you can join Michael Neill’s program.

Apart from being lots of fun and highly supportive I fond that the first time this ran I achieved so much more than I would in a regular 30 days – I certainly plan to kick start my 2010 by creating the impossible again.

Click here for more details and to reserve your place.

“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”

(Friedrich Nietzsche, philosopher)

I was chatting to another participant at an event recently and the conversation turned to the work of the next speaker. My comment was that, like many books, I had dipped in and out of his book, reading different chapters at different times. 

The look of relief from the other person was enormous – “Oh I‘m so glad you do that too.” She went onto explain that she often did that but felt that the right way to read books was from cover to cover.

I don’t recall that it had ever really occurred to me that there was just one “right way” to read a book, just the one that fitted the reason I was reading. Reading a fiction book, for instance, lends itself to reading it from start to finish. Yet, getting specific information from an encyclopaedia, lends itself to just reading a specific part of that book. I guess I consider what I want to get from reading each piece.

With regards to this particular speaker’s book I knew that I was reading because I was curious about the topic – not because I was going to sit a test on it anytime in the future and needed to recall every single piece contained within each page. This meant I had dipped in and out at various times to the bits I was particular curious about and wanted to find out more about. It had obviously worked as I was there participating in discovering more about his latest work.

Later I was talking to a relatively new client on the phone when he asked me if he was doing a particular technique right. I think he expected me to start questioning him about how he was doing the technique as he sounded surprised when I actually asked “Is what you’re doing working, are you getting the outcome that you want?”

He went on to admit that the way that he was doing this technique was getting much better results then his previous method. We did go onto play with the technique even more but that wasn’t because he was doing it wrong, it was to see if he could make it even stronger for him.

When people describe to me something that they are doing, often one of my first questions is “does it work?” From there we can play with tweaking the current method or doing something totally different.

This week I invite you to play with the following:

1. Pick something that you are not sure if you are doing “the right way”.

For example, maybe you are not sure if you marketing “the right way” or perhaps, you’re not sure if you are using the right way to loose weight.

This is something we are going to play with and some tweaks may work better than your existing methods and some may not. Pick something where you are happy that the results may be inconsistent while you play and find the way that works for you.

There may well be a better way to perform in job interviews but if you already do interviews well you may not want to choose to experiment in one for your dream job!

2. What outcome do you want to create?

 3. Considering that situation, is the method you are using getting the results that you want?

 How can you tweak the existing method so that it is stronger for you?

What other methods could you also use?

(Come up with as many as you possibly can)

 4. If you are not certain if something will work or not, pick a time and place that is safe and appropriate to play and try it to find out how different it is for you.

For example, finding a new way to travel into work is great but you may want to experiment with the route on a day when you haven’t got a vital appointment first thing. You may also not want to see what happens if you literally drive through the lake rather than round it!

Lets imagine that Bob isn’t sure if he is running a team meeting the “right way.”

Answering each of the questions in turn he decides that the outcome he wants is improved communication. He wants to make sure that there is a system in place to ensure everyone knows the latest news, and also find solutions to possible problems.

His current team meetings do provide his team with the latest news but he finds that often the meetings end up being the team sharing problems and no solutions coming from the meeting – they come later.

Bob plays with several ideas and eventually finds that by providing an agenda so his team have already had some time before to start thinking of solutions.

Have a lovely week doing it your way 

Love

 “Examine what is said, not who speaks”

(Arabian proverb)

While I was in London last week I took the opportunity to wander over to see a performance art project that is taking place on the 4^th plinth in Trafalgar Square.

Originally built in 1841 the 4^th plinth never had its intended statue insitue as funds ran out before the project was completed. Now it houses more temporary projects.

July 6^thsaw the first of 2,400 people step onto that plinth as part of Antony Gormley’s 100 day living monument, “One & Other”.  Trafalgar Square is probably better known as an area that is normally visited for its monuments to royalty and generals. This project allows a different person to take centre stage, so to speak, every hour 24 hours a day until 14^th October.

As the project has gone on there have been many many different approaches to how those participating choose to spend their hour. There have been people campaigning for a cause that they believe passionately in, there havebeen those who entertained with readings, performance or interactive games of bingo with the surrounding crowd. One plinther dressed as a mime artist finished his hour with lots of tears and champagne after he proposed to his girlfriend and she said yes.

Topics have been emotional, passionate, entertaining and light hearted. Certainly from what I saw the project appears to be attracting attention from those passing by and had a small crowd who were watching and interacting. It’s also possible to watch via the internet. To see a live feed of the current occupant visit http://www.oneandother.co.uk/

Prior to their hour future “plinthers” have spent various amounts of time pondering how they were use their hour. In fact you can read some of their comments online and in various interviews.

So how would you spend your hour? The draw to be a plinther is now closed but if you had that opportunity, even if you found it scary, funny or just plain bizarre what would you do? If you had a message what would you want it to be?

Mahatma Gandhi when he was asked if he had a message for his people “My life is my message.”

If you were to take centre stage today and your life is your message what would it say?

I know that when I first heard that question there was lots of worthy things I’d have liked it to say. However, honestly, a more accurate message would have been; get close to getting opportunities then get scared and hide in the background for a bit longer.

This week I invite you to play with the question if your life was your message what would it be?

If it’s not what you would like it to be you could “beat yourself up about it” or you could bear in mind that firstly it helps with any communication if you first know what you want to communicate.

What would you like the message of your life to be?

If you’veever written a speech or some other form of communication it’s quite possible that you went through a few different versions with various tweaks and possibly major rewrites before you got a really clear message. So if you feel that your life doesn’t currently reflect what you want it to, you can always take action to get that message more aligned with what you want.

What is one huge step you could choose to take it closer to what you want?

What is one tiny tweak that would take you closer to what you want your life to be about?

Have a wonderful week

Love

Jen

“You must train your intuition – you must trust the small voice inside you which tells you exactly what to say, what to decide.”

(Ingrid Bergman)

I was driving along in some traffic recently, absently humming along with a tune on the radio, when I came across a series of pedestrian crossings with traffic lights. The thought occurred to me (as I cheerfully got to a particularly good bit of the song) that traffic lights are a hugely recognised form of communicating their desired message.

When I’m working with an individual or group, at a very basic level, the answer is often a mix of starting something new, continuing what they are already doing or stopping something.

This week I invite you to play with that concept and to make use of the traffic light signals to access your own inner judgement.

1. Pick something that you are happy playing with to get more insight, more ideas and/or generally get unstuck.

 

2. If you were going to start doing something in this area what could you do?
    
3. If you were going to continue doing something that makes a positive difference in this area what would that be?

 

4. If you were going to stop something connected with this area what would that be?

 

You may want to read through the next instructions before carrying them out.

5.  Imagine that you are going to take 4 different road journeys, all with the same starting point but along different routes.

 

6.  The first one is one that represents what you could start doing. As you imagine travelling along this road and this route notice what that journey is like. The length of this route is as long as it is, and while travelling you may observe the scenery, the condition of the road, who’s driving, the weather and the state of where this route ends.

 

7. Take as long as you need to fully experience that journey. When you  get to the end, imagine returning to your starting point. You’ll find that at the start of that road route a set of traffic lights has appeared. Just notice if they are at red, amber or green.

 

8.  Now, we’re going to travel along the second route, this road journey represents what you can continue doing. Again pay attention to what this particular journey is like and where it finishes. 

 

9.  Once you have reached your destination, as if by magic, you’ll find that you are back at the starting point and there is another set of traffic lights for the road just travelled. Are these ones on red, green or amber?

 

10.   Imagine taking the third option, the one that represents what you could stop doing and as you’ll probably have already have guessed you notice the journey and the destination as you travel along.

 

11.   When you have finished that route and you’re ready, you’ll find yourself back at that same starting point with another set of traffic lights that has appeared for the third route. Again notice if these ones are red, green or amber.

 

12.   The forth and final route represents an option you have not yet considered. As you travel along this route, there may or may not be clues about what this route actually represents. If there is not, it’s not important at this stage – just carry on noticing what there is to be aware of when taking this option.

 

13.   When you have completed that route, return to the start again and as another set of traffic lights have appeared – notice if these ones are on red, green or amber.

 

14.   At this stage become aware of your physical surroundings of the room that you are currently in and maybe even stretch and wiggle your fingers and toes.

 

So what did you learn by playing with that?

If you found that any of the traffic lights were on red, it’s probably a pretty good inner signal that option isn’t one for you (at least at the moment)

If you found that any of the traffic lights were on amber then you may want to consider proceeding slowly with that route. Maybe you need a bit more information or other people involved more. It’s not to say that it won’t work, it just may need a bit of tinkering to make it stronger. You may find that the details of how you imagined that route or destination will give you more indications about how that could be altered.

If you found that a routes traffic light was on green, then that’s a great inner signal to go ahead with that option.

If you found that you got more than one green light then that’s great to, you may want to consider how that could be combined or maybe you want to choose to pick the most pleasant journey /destination.

Have a week full of inner knowledge

Love

Jen